This article is inspired by a post made by a friend Chris Vincent on Facebook.
As men, we are used to the burden of making the first move. It is never fully comfortable for us, but we do get better at it over time. My question is, have you ladies ever contemplated making the first move? Moreover, have you actually gone through with it?
I am sure some of you reading this have done this, and others have only hoped inside that the man you always wanted would come up to you, but he failed to do so.
Now, there could be many reasons why you lack the initiative and ambition. Maybe you stick to the old-fashioned route; maybe you are scared of rejection; maybe you simply do not know how to approach a man.
Welcome to a man’s world. We, too, hate rejection and embarrassment, and some of us have no clue how to approach women. As a man, I can tell you that we do not mind a woman approaching us.
In fact, my ex approached me in a swimming pool; she walked right up to me in the pool and asked to swim with me. I was a little taken back because it is not the norm; however, her confidence impressed me and I was attracted from the get-go.
A woman who approaches a man stands out, and it doesn’t make you half the woman you are now. We can actually determine a few things about her. Her boldness, no-holds-barred approach tells us that she’s confident, spontaneous, brave, outgoing, direct and thinks outside the box.
All of the above are attractive qualities in a woman; they make you appear humble and real. You should never hinder your chances and opportunities by thinking you are too good to approach a man or assume that he knows you are attracted to him.
Men like to think they can tell if a girl is attracted to them, but there are always cases where we never get the hint or the other person is too shy to make it noticeable.
Men definitely appreciate it when a woman makes the first advance, and I don’t know one guy who has ever complained or made a girl feel bad about approaching him. That brings me to the next area of signs and ways to help zero in on your target.
If you do not want to immediately make a cold approach, send him a few signs to gauge his reaction. These could be done by simple flirty looks and smiles, or by complimenting him on something.
If you are shy, just go for it, and I promise it won’t be as bad as you’re imagining. Even if the guy is not attracted to you, chances are he will be respectful back. After all, the world won’t end if you get no for an answer, will it?