Dear, I am wearing that blue shirt you picked out for me because, according to you, that’s probably the only colour that suits me and you’d be pleased to know that my colleagues actually complimented me on it as well. You indeed have good taste. But here’s the thing, I have absolutely every right to make my own decisions and it’s high time you realized that.
I might not be as fashionable as you, but that’s only because I want to be comfortable in what I’m wearing rather than being actively conscious about my look all the time. I know you mean no harm, but there are times when I just want you to let me do things the way I want to.
After all, we both have the right to make our own decisions and so I should be given the right to decide what to wear and how to wear it. I want to keep my shirt out, in spite of how shabby you think it looks. And yes, my favorite food is Banku and Palmnut soup, I don’t like eating Junk food (which you always force us to have whenever we go out ) and I don’t like visiting that night club you always insist on visiting at least every week .
I also know you aren’t fond of my folks and friends and so you constantly find excuses to avoid meeting them. And you know what? It’s absolutely okay if you don’t like interacting with them because I never want you to do something you don’t like doing. But how can you think it’s okay for you to expect me to not meet them? How can you think that it’s okay for you to enforce your likes/dislikes on me? They are an integral part of my life, just as you are, and that makes them important as well.
We are two separate bodies with different needs and tastes and none of us can force the other to like or dislike something. And while we’re on the topic, you can’t force me to shift to another job just because you feel I quit my Job as a time and attendance manager to be a full time blogger. It’s my work and I love what I’m doing, irrespective of my pay and if you truly love me, you should have no problems supporting that.
I’m very well aware of the fact that you wish nothing but the best for me, but honey, I know what’s best for me better than anyone else. It’s okay if you don’t believe in my investment plans and that you feel like I’m not properly presenting myself at fancy functions and also being a blogger is not a formal job but this is who I am and this is who you’re supposed to be in love with.
Your loving boyfriend